Blog Rules and Blog Etiquette out the Window!

Randomly I come across a post listing: proper blog etiquette and blog rules.  There are rules to awards, commenting, posting, linking, etc.  Not wanting to be rude and being new to the game, I followed these rules religiously, until now.  I am breaking the rules and creating my own.  Most are just common sense so I would like to comment on a few here.



Here are the rules I agree with:

  1. Don't spam in someone's comments.  That is just annoying. And gross.
  2. Never blog angry.   Go ahead if you want but I promise you, it'll come back to bite you in the butt.  A few weeks ago I got angry about something and wanted to post it.  I thought, tomorrow, next week, I'll still feel the same.    So I wrote the blog in Word but never posted it.  A week later I read it again and THANK GOD I never posted it.  Phew!
  3. Never blog negatively about something.  You don't like a book or a certain movie, fine, simply state why and move on.  Don't rant and run something in a ground to a point that you lose a follower.  I recently read a popular blog and the blog didn't like something and vented about it.  I personally like the thing the blog bashed.  The blog went into such a bashing session that it just offended me. The blog continued to bash in the comments and I said no thanks. Delete, delete, delete.
  4. Comment politely.  Enough said.
Here are some rules I agree with, sort of:
  1. If someone comments on your blog acknowledge their comment.  I guess. If someone takes the time to say something about what you wrote you should acknowledge them.  But is it really necessary to address to each and every person's individual comment?  Most of the time I do but sometimes I find I have nothing to say to a specific comment. I feel a general thanks guys should be okay too. Do I expect someone to reply to my comment specifically?  Absolutely not.  If they do fine but if not no big.
  2. If someone gives you an award follow the rules, post about it an link it back.  This should be your call, as an individual.  Awards are nice but not for everyone.  I don't want to feel obligated to select 15 people because the "rules" say so.  Answer these X# of questions or tell X# things about yourself can be a fun way to get to know someone but shouldn't be required.  Here is what I plan to do with awards from now on: Thank the person on their blog, acknowledge with a post on mine with a link back to the giver.  Anything more than that is polite but should not be expected.
Here are some rules that I don't plan to continue doing.  If you want to, great. 
  1. If someone follows you, you should follow their blog.  No.  I only follow blogs I enjoy reading.
  2. If someone comments on your blog, you should comment on their blog.  No.  I've done this off and on for a while but do not plan to continue it.   I usually don't get more than 5-10 comments and I have a hard time keeping up with this rule, I can't imagine if there were 20 or more comments. Commenting should not be required.  It should be something you want to say.  If you are compelled  by a post then absolutely, say something.  I've had people comment on my post and it was obvious they were following this rule and I didn't feel it was sincere.
Here is a new rule I want to create:
  1. No matter what blog rules you follow, do not expect everyone else to follow the same rules.  I blog to get to know other writers, network and  most importantly to have a place to talk about my journey as a writer.  Everyone has different lives and to be offended because someone didn't follow your rules takes the fun away from blogging.
Sure by not doing some of the rules my commenters may drop off and my following may slow down but I'm not here to be popular.  I'm here to have fun with fellow writers like myself.  

Enjoy the blogging experience.  When it starts to be a chore and takes away from the experience people end up leaving the blogging community.   Feel free to create your own rules and if someone doesn't like the way you play, then play with someone else.  What rules work or don't work for you?